Transformation is one of those words that sounds good but definitely has its downsides. We all like the idea of being transformed but getting there can knock all the stuffing out of us. I know-having been through many iterations of transformation. It helps me as a walk that journey, again and again, with my clients [...]
Have you ever wondered which turn to take as you walk through life? You know, those times when you get to a crossroads and don’t know which way to go. Those are the times when there doesn’t seem to be any inner guidance or if there is you have no idea how to excavate it, [...]
These are the photos documented in Natural Fashion: Tribal Decoration from Africa that Hans Silvester has taken over numerous trips visiting the Surma and Mursi tribes in the Omo Valley of southern Ethiopia. Every day these tribes find natural elements and paint their bodies, spending hours of the day assembling these incredible ornamentations. “A small piece of ocher crushed with [...]
[from Safely Embodied Ezine published July 9, 2010] Both the Tour de France and healing take motivation, determination, focus, and commitment. Training in these qualities will give you the strength and fortitude to move more easefully through healing trauma and attachment issues. It will probably be one of the hardest things you do. Meditation: [...]
It’s July. For some of the world that means the Tour de France, the greatest bicycle race of them all. Encompassing 21 days and 3430 kilometers (2131 miles) it’s a small micro world of struggle, determination, dedication, commitment, and overcoming physical and mental resistance. [to read last year's ezine about the Tour de France [...]
Comfort is one of those things we take for granted, unless we have no idea what it is. That is the case with so many people who have learned that it’s not safe to reach out to other people for reassurance or comfort. For them reaching out has meant embarrassment, shame, humiliation. In other words curling up inside, withdrawing as far [...]
During the second day of the Becoming Safely Attached workshop in Chicago I taught an introduction to shame and shame resilience. I’ve been on a first name basis with shame for as long as I can remember; perhaps it’s a legacy of being brought up Irish Catholic. Whatever it’s genesis I’ve searched everywhere for direction and [...]
Years ago in New Orleans at an international trauma conference I had occasion to sit an informal table with a well-known trauma researcher. New to the field, and not wise to the world, I didn’t know how important this person was or the impact this person had on the field. In those days I let [...]
In the Becoming Safely Attached Workshop that happened a couple of weeks ago in Boston the group of us began to look at the embedded patterns that seemingly run our lives. We spent the first day looking at what these patterns are, how they show up, and how they got laid down. The second day [...]