Over the past years I’ve stumbled, almost by accident, across a missing ingredient in healing trauma and attachment wounding. Underneath the trauma reactivity and physiological arousal, underneath repairing the attachment wounds, there’s a doorway into building a positive self-structure. As therapists we tend to overlook this, bypassing it, focusing more on the obviously distracting physiological [...]
In September, 2012 I’m off to lead a workshop with therapists in Scotland. Preparing for that visit I asked the publisher to send me manuals. They ordered me a substantial price reduction if I ordered more — so I did! Since I won’t need the whole amount for Scotland I wanted to pass the [...]
(photo I took in Pompeii of an angel frescoed into eternity) One of the people in the Embodied Practices sent me the following note and wasn’t sure that it was “suitable for the blog.” After reading it I was certain it was! I found her experience to be moving and compelling. With her permission I [...]
When people have had a difficult life they get used to shortening and contracting their breath. The breath can get tangled up in the whole slew of thoughts and feelings and reactions to others that are going on almost constantly. It can be hard to turn the attention inside to notice the breath – right [...]
Maybe it’s the day? Maybe it’s because I have the Becoming Safely Attached curriculum on my mind but all week I have been interacting with people about the patterns that dictate the course of their lives. In fact, I literally just got off the phone. A wonderful, delightful, engaging woman called wanting to find out [...]
(Today’s blog post is contributed by Anne Hallward, that many of you might know as “Dr. Anne from Safe Space Radio.” She recently did an interview with Matthew Sanford and wanted to spread the word of his incredible wisdom.)I want to introduce you to someone I think will be a joy for you to know [...]
Every moment offers us the gift of transformation. We can choose to respond to life by tightening up, hardening, resisting or we can choose to soften, relax into the moment. The first doesn’t seem like a real choice. Our bodies naturally tend to tighten when a blow comes at us. It seems only natural to [...]
What a way to start out the New Year — or this new decade — by seeing Avatar. I saw it on New Year’s Eve. It completely opened up my world. It was like I popped by head outside the Cosmic Egg (a la Joseph Chilton Pearce) into a rich, vibrant, dynamic world that was [...]