Attachment Videos: Overview, Protest, and that darn Four Letter Word

 

https://youtu.be/h1SKVSn7_5E

The core elements of attachment theory set the foundation for healing the places we feel so stuck in.

I put this video together, the first of a series, to answer the question so many people ask me, “How can I change?”

Once we begin to make sense of how we are organized inside we can keep what we like and shift the rest.

Sounds easy. And it is, when we know the map.

That’s why I put this video series together to help us remember how to take the steps toward a life we want to live.

To deepen your learning, I’m teaching a 4 module online course on Attachment that starts in November.

To take an even deeper dive consider joining us for the Trauma, Attachment & Yoga Training that starts in January, 2017.

I always want to hear from you. Drop me a note below. Let me know what resonates with you?

As I form this course, share what you want and need with me. What do you want to know more about?  How can I support you in healing your attachment wounds?

 

https://youtu.be/ZfTaL5EpXlw

After my last video (you can see it below) I got a lot of questions about Protest – what is it?  And what do we do with protest when it arises?

From the perspective of attachment theory, Mindful Self-Compassion, and yoga psychology, this video looks at why protest is so important.

The answer is loaded into this question:

Why is it that some people have terrible things happen to them and collapse under the weight of that while others seem to be able to pivot and find value in their lives?

What kind of protest arises in you when difficult things happen? What helps you be with difficulty? And what allows you to find compassionate responses?

 

https://youtu.be/1WCteYj7x4s

There’s a four letter word that most people avoid like the plague. Check out the video to find out what it is.
What do you think?  Do you agree?  Find problems with what I suggest?  I love hearing all of it!  Let me know by posting a comment here

 

 

Let me — and all of us — learn from you and be with you on your journey by commenting below.

 

 

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32 Responses to “Attachment Videos: Overview, Protest, and that darn Four Letter Word”

  1. Linda October 2, 2016 at 7:39 pm // Reply

    Hi Deirdre,
    I just watched the 11 min video you just sent out about attachment. Again I am impressed.

    You are very very gifted with the slides and presentation. The creativity that you bring to the visual expression of your thoughts, points, ideas, reasoning process is really quite ingenious.

    It’s almost like you simultaneously express the same thought flow verbally and visually–you are in a sense visually expressing the way your brain works. It’s an inspiration to me 🙂

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    • Deirdre Fay October 3, 2016 at 3:36 am // Reply

      Thank you! It helps me to break it down into small bits. Grateful that as I synthesize it makes sense to you and resonates.

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  2. Sarah October 2, 2016 at 7:40 pm // Reply

    Love the graphics, the expression, and the learning!

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  3. Lesley October 2, 2016 at 7:43 pm // Reply

    This video is great. Makes a lot of sense to me.

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    • Deirdre Fay October 3, 2016 at 3:35 am // Reply

      Always makes me grateful to hear, Lesley. Thanks for letting me know.

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  4. Tim October 2, 2016 at 7:43 pm // Reply

    Enjoyed the new video on attachment….

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  5. Miriam October 2, 2016 at 7:44 pm // Reply

    Thank you for the video Deirdre. It has consolidated and clarified for me lots of things I have half known and which have been floating around my head without quite becoming conscious accessible knowledge.

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    • Deirdre Fay October 3, 2016 at 3:35 am // Reply

      You are more than welcome, Miriam. I’d love to hear more how things are clarifying.

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  6. Geoff October 2, 2016 at 7:44 pm // Reply

    Thank you so much for all of your work that benefits so many beings, including me.

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    • Deirdre Fay October 3, 2016 at 3:34 am // Reply

      Wonderful that we resonate, Geoff. Thanks for letting me know.

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  7. John October 3, 2016 at 3:14 pm // Reply

    what a truly wonderful video…a blessing…your ideas, voice, empathy, strength…shines through. Certainly saw and heard a lot of things which resonated in my life. I’d like to learn more about how to befriend my protest

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  8. Rick October 3, 2016 at 4:56 pm // Reply

    What an absolutely outstanding presentation. Thank you so much.
    Take good care
    Rick

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  9. Anna October 4, 2016 at 3:33 pm // Reply

    Wow this is amazing Deirdre! Feels so authentically you, powerful, compassionate, clear and accessible.

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  10. judye hess October 15, 2016 at 3:34 pm // Reply

    Thanks Diedre,
    I appreciated the video clip. Still not sure about the part about “turning toward the opposite”. Can you explain that a bit more? Warmly, Judye (girlfriend of simon)

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    • Deirdre Fay October 16, 2016 at 5:21 am // Reply

      Hey Judye! I absolutely know who you are and remember meeting you in Boston many years ago now. Good idea to expand more on that. I’ll try to get that in the next video I do. We cover it in great length in the courses. sending goodness, deirdre

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  11. Don October 16, 2016 at 5:14 am // Reply

    I love, love, love your videos. Your demeanor is filled with confidence and wisdom. Your message is clear and filled with insight and truth in what you are sharing. Please keep them coming as you continue this valuable mode of communication and connection.

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    • Deirdre Fay October 16, 2016 at 5:19 am // Reply

      Thank you, Don! Your encouragement and reassurance means a lot 🙂

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  12. Alli October 16, 2016 at 5:15 am // Reply

    I continue to be grateful for the help and insight you provide. I’m interested in pursuing further training with you.

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    • Deirdre Fay October 16, 2016 at 5:19 am // Reply

      It’s an honor to support you, Alli. Hope there will be more.

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  13. Jen October 16, 2016 at 5:16 am // Reply

    I just looked at the TAY course and it looks like I’ll be able to make the dates! so exciting! I have so much to learn from you

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    • Deirdre Fay October 16, 2016 at 5:18 am // Reply

      That would be great, Jen! Love to have you with us

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  14. Joan October 16, 2016 at 5:37 am // Reply

    It’s an honor to be in your courses, Deirdre. I’m looking forward to this seminar. I wish I were closer and could come to the training. Anytime you want to come to the UK to do it I’ll be there!

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  15. Laurie October 17, 2016 at 11:38 am // Reply

    This information is wonderful — in fact just hearing your voice giving the attachment overview was super-soothing.

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  16. Mary October 17, 2016 at 11:42 am // Reply

    Deirdre found my way to be on your mailing list after being in your workshop from the Brattleboro Retreat. You have taken such diverse, important information and grown it into a lovely voice that integrates the best of yoga, trauma treatment, and psychology. Your presentation at Brattleboro was brilliant .. people around me were wowed … Having known you at Kripalu I felt like I knew the secret… the community, the transformation, the Practice that underlies and cellularly makes you who you are today. Brilliant my dear. thank you so much.

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    • Deirdre Fay October 21, 2016 at 12:58 pm // Reply

      It was very, very sweet to have you there! Always good to know I gave a good presentation 🙂

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  17. Dennis October 21, 2016 at 12:50 pm // Reply

    As always a blessing. Thank you for what you do for all of us who were lost and didn’t know it. Supports me in wanting to overcome my fear of the computer to attend your presentation.

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    • Deirdre Fay October 21, 2016 at 12:58 pm // Reply

      I’m deeply honored, Dennis. Thanks for writing and letting me know. Delighted to help you overcome your fear of the computer!!

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  18. Kelle October 27, 2016 at 12:55 pm // Reply

    Hi Deirdre

    Thank you so much for this wonderfully put together video. I am extremely grateful I was able to listen (I had challenges hearing it on computer after trying a few times because I couldn’t get it loud enough on max volume & my external speaker broke. So, I’ve finally slowed down enough today to listen on my phone which worked-yay!). your tone of voice, pace as well as the simplicity helps me feel safe and soothed to explore my past and to experience hope for continuing to learn to create more loving patterns, paths and ways of being with myself, others and the world. I found the information about the way we see and behave/react in the world formed around age three and much of it nonverbal so therefore the importance of working on the level of the body fascinating. I also found the erikson model of stages of development, the pictures and the different beliefs an ways of being that tend to form as a result of how are needs were or were not met telling. Watching it also reminded me to pay more attention to my needs and wants as I realize I can confuse a want with a need resulting in the want not actually meeting the need if I didn’t actually identify the need. I also just loved the animal pics, especially the cat and dog and elephants. So much richness in your teachings in just minutes. Thank you so much and I’m looking forward to joining the online class. Will there be recordings or just live webinars? A request I have is for focus on needs, wants and learning how to cooperate with them, “my parts” especially when it comes to competing/simultaneous wants/needs.

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    • Deirdre Fay October 29, 2016 at 12:07 pm // Reply

      Hey Kelle, Thank you for your note. I’m glad you were able to hear it 🙂 Can’t tell you how good it feel to hear that my tone of voice, pacing, and simplicity helped you feel safe and soothed to explore your past. That’s balm to my soul! Makes all the work I do worth it. If that helps you experience hope to be more fully you — then I’m inspired to keep at it! It helped me as well to get the distinction of these non-verbal patterns.

      There will be audios, videos, handouts — everything I can do to make thins as rich a learning environment as I can. The videos will be made into audios and all those will be downloadable so you’ll have them forever.

      Your request is noted! It’s definitely something we’ll explore. Thanks for making your needs known.
      Appreciating you,
      Deirdre

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  19. Sharon October 29, 2016 at 11:25 am // Reply

    Thank you for your video. Needs… I find that John Bowlby’s belief that we are as needy as our unmet needs to be somewhat confusing. Needy…those invectives hurled in desperation and panic creating internal tearful pleas, accusations, out-of-control, confusion, and being overwhelmed all of which display a “need” to be met for relief. With the dissolve of needs as an infant learning to not trust even having a “need” how does one even know there are needs to be met let alone identify those needs. As an adult those needs not only are hard to define but at times are insatiable therefore making it hard to have them met; being to needy creates a feeling of selfishness and self-serving or self-centered.
    This video is a tough one to swallow because not having needs met or even allowed makes it hard to know what the needs even are. Needs are difficult! Thank you for sharing.

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    • Deirdre Fay October 29, 2016 at 12:11 pm // Reply

      So well said, Sharon. Needs are difficult! Indeed. It’s why we treat them like the PLAGUE. Your comments are important. The simple answer is: Needs are there to be responded to. That you/we didn’t have needs met early on brings forth a cacophony of internal noise making it difficult to hear the original noise. All that can be unpacked. Hopefully you’ll be joining us in the course so we can deepen into your exploration.
      Sending goodness,
      Deirdre

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