Learn, Develop, & Flourish
in the company of compassionate psycho-spiritual professionals committed to changing themselves - and through that, the world in which they live.
As a psycho-spiritual professional this integrative map can guide you and your clients through the highs and lows of life. Developing an inner core that is solid, steady, and secure helps to face the complications of life with greater balance.
This radically positive approach to healing focuses on helping psycho-spiritual professionals release stuck or repeating patterns, and in the process refine your inner wisdom to better facilitate the work you do with others.
This is what we do, all day, every day in the Safely Embodied Learning Community.
Join the Safely Embodied Learning Community (SELC)SELC is about taking theory, making it granular so change can happen more easily
Each month you'll have experiential coaching calls with practical, applicable steps to take, making changes in both clinical and personal lives. Research shows us that we change with consistent practice. It's about taking ideas and applying them into our lives.
That's what SELC is about. SELC provides a nurturing community of other practicing professionals who support each other in learning and practicing these ideas. Together we Grow, Develop, Flourish.
Discover simple, practical, evidence-based theory, broken down into accessible skills that benefit you as a psycho-spiritual professional to assist cultivating a steady, secure, solid self that can be with the highs and lows of life - with equanimity.
Plus you'll be able to interact with others psycho-spiritual professionals who are exploring similar ways to have a better life. That makes it so much easier!
"So many of your teachings have gotten me through tough times and helped me in my clinical practice. The skills support me in working with my clients when they are triggered. Many times there's an immediate relief. I love that the BSE skills allow for creativity and options for how to proceed so I can adapt the skills to how I best work. Oddly enough they are not shortcuts, as paradoxical as that may sound, because they honor and validate the depth of the pain while also offering a step forward. I feel like I am in a better clinical position being involved in SELC."
Liz Hall, PhD
What is SELC?
SELC is for psycho-spiritual professionals who are motivated to grow, develop and become your best self. You experience the challenges in life to be part of the process to be guided from within.
Access to that inner wisdom grows helping you find your way through stuck patterns both in your own life and in your clinical practice.
This happens whether your life looks on the outside; or if you feel invisible, not seen or known, lost, empty, cycling into imposter syndromes, or shame and self critical spirals.
"Gosh, I have so much going on. How much time will this take?"
As psycho-spiritual professionals our lives are busy with many things vying for our attention. The Safely Embodied Learning Community is a user-friendly, "dip in, dip out" community of ongoing support where one can come, get replenished, and offer nourishment to others. Then, feeling refreshed, head back into the world.
- Access innovative approaches to attachment theory that initiate change, motivation and inspiration
- Cultivate nourishing perspectives that sustain you professionally and personally through difficult times
- Training calls help put the skills into every day practice - in your personal and clinical experience
- Recordings providing experiential approaches are just as valuable as being there live!
"Grounding in the spine as an option to grounding in the feet. Halleluja! Finally an option to this 'grounding of the feet-business' that never ever seemed to be working and was of no interest what so ever.... I mean utterly non-useful, in my case. Grounding in the spine - NOW! There is an option of interest that works! :-)"
Kerstin Palmer
Psychotherapist, Sweden
Step by step - practical steps from those who are actively finding the best, easiest ways to heal
Is SELC for me?
If you're wondering if the Safely Embodied Learning Community is for you let's think about it together
- Are you someone who wants to change the old trauma and attachment patterns that keep you stuck?
- Are you willing to look at yourself, taking responsibility for what happens to you - knowing that the only one you can truly be responsible to change is yourself? (as much as any one of us want things to be different, at some point we realize the only piece of life's puzzle we have control over is what we choose to do for ourselves, individually...)
- Are you motivated to find another way to heal, to live in this world, one that is inspired by kindness and goodness? Do you want to "play it forward"?
- Do you get encouraged by steady practices that help you take one step after another? Perhaps you also want practices to share with others?
- Are you reflective and willing to take responsibility for how you show up in the world and how you interact with others?
- Are you generous-hearted, willing to share what works for you in living a better life, finding yourself courageous (even when you don't think you are)?
We're full of psycho-spiritual professionals interested in finding simple, easy-to-use ways to stay steady in the face of the complications of life.
This proven path is a "radically positive way to transform trauma."
Years of teaching and training psycho-spiritual professonals has shown that consistent, persistent practice is what makes change possible.
This experiential approach is applied learning, "deepening knowledge till it becomes a way of life."
Often now clinical practice becomes a cognitive understanding -- but how does it becomes concrete? Practical? That's what created SELC.
We can understand something - but when we apply that learning to our lives -- that's when our external world begins to change.
In SELC there's no right way - or wrong way - to be in life.
It's about self-compassion for all we hold as psycho-spiritual professionals -- and in seeing the best in each other no matter what. We then have an experiential sense that there's room for all of us.
It's knowing that wisdom arises from "mistakes" from trying new things and learning from whatever happens.
SELC is there to support us as professionals developing themselves so we can even better support the people we work with. We realize we are not separate. When we become more whole, so do those we serve.
If that appeals to you, please jump in! Trust your heart.
You'll be glad you did!
"It’s quite strange what's happening for me. When I’m with my client I can sit inside myself more and be able to follow my inspiration more and more. I believe part of that is all of the work I’ve been doing with you [Deirdre] and I want to thank you for that. "
Alma
Therapist, Canada
Become Solid, Steady & Secure
Healing Habits & Attune-up
Each month we meet TWICE for Healing Habit Calls & Attune-Up Q&A that give you skills to use clinically and personally to get unstuck, work with your parts, reduce triggers and feel safe inside and outside
Members Only Resource Portal
Learning Community Portal where past training calls are stored so you can access when you need them
Private Online Community
For those professionals who want personal and professional integration of their psycho-spiritual orientation
Additional FREE Bonuses
As a SELC member, you will have access to these products in our online portal for as long as your SELC membership remains active.
Foundations for Healing Course
(value $97)
Build a inner foundation to attune to your own guidance so you grow, develop, and flourish from the inside out.
BSE Essentials Course
(value $197)
Unlock your healing potential through simple, practical, skills that will reorganize what doesn't work, giving you more room for what you want.
Conflict & Repair Retreat
(value $45)
A recorded two-hour Experiential Retreat focusing on conflict & repair self-assessment, the benefits of conflict, and more.
Access Psycho-Spiritual Wisdom
(value $25)
For those people who want more connection imagine a space where everyone sees the best in each other.
"I’ve NEVER experienced such a sense of safety in a similar training. Nor, a felt sense of being seen, welcomed, belonging, support and encouragement to reach for the nourishing opposite."
Becky
therapist
"My heart would sing after each weekend module. The whole training was excellent. Superb!! "
Carol
Healer
"Unique opportunity to experience differently and explore attachment wounds and repair. A very healing and connecting training. Deidre’s presence and care are powerful, providing a way to experientially learn the work, feeling embodied and connected. "
Jeffrey
on the healing path
SELC
The most important piece of all of this? That you trust your heart to guide you.
We'd love to have you join us. You'll find yourself belonging to a group of psycho-spiritual professionals, maybe for the first time.
Having taught workshops and trainings throughout the world I am moved and inspired with the courage and commitment it takes to heal and flourish -- and serve the people we work with.
The most important thing is that you trust yourself, learning to be guided by your heart, back to your own Self.
There is nothing better than that.
If the Safely Embodied Learning Community can help you remember who you REALLY are - then it's an honor to walk with you on this path.
Simple, easy to understand trainings and practices
Cancellation Policy & Informed Consent
Of course, if this isn't right for you, you can cancel at any time...once you cancel your subscription you'll have access to all the SELC resources through the end of your current billing cycle.
You can, also, let me know what you're needing that isn't here so I can make the Safely Embodied Learning Community a better place to be. I'd be really grateful for that - and grateful to you.
Joining the SELC presumes you have read and agree to this little caveat, though:
This is not psychotherapy. Not does it mean you are in therapy with Deirdre Fay. Our community is NOT a place to process trauma but to use the Safely Embodied skills to take responsibility for your healing, using the teachings to steadily, persistently, and consistently build a solid, more secure sense of self inside. All so you can have the life you want to live.
"I get SO much out of the recordings even though I can't make the calls live. Where else do I get this kind of immediate, consistent clinical support? "
Terri Umbaldo
Psychotherapist, Africa
FAQ
Who is SELC for?
SELC is for psycho-spiritual professionals who want to feel more solid, steady and secure inside -- and contribute to others in a clinical practice.
We integrate the best of contemporary psychotherapy, research into attachment theory, trauma treatment and the wisdom traditions. Deirdre has been doing this for over 30 years. At the base are the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills. Combined together these help you and your clients grow, develop and flourish, leaving behind old patterns.
What am I signing up for?
We're excited to welcome you! SELC is a membership program where psycho-spiritual professionals come together to discover practical skills to life a more satisfying life. We do this with an integration of contemporary trauma treatment, research backed attachment theory, and the wisdom traditions.
You'll find like-minded and like-hearted psycho-spiritual professionals within a private Content Portal and a private online community.
I don't live in the USA. Can I join?
Absolutely! We welcome SELC members from all over the world. Currently we have members from the U.S., Ireland, the United Kingdom, Australia, New Zealand, Hong Kong, Singapore...and beyond!
People often listen to the calls when the time works for them. Since they are in a "workshop" format you can access what you need when you need it.
Is this therapy?
This is NOT psychotherapy. Nor does it mean you are in therapy with Deirdre Fay. It is a self-healing, psycho-spiritual model.
Can I cancel if I'm not satisfied?
Of course, if this isn't right for you, you can cancel at any time... once you cancel your subscription your access to all the SELC resources will be removed at the end of your current billing cycle.
I have another question that's not addressed here?
Please email us at support [at] dfay [dot] com
"There's something so much cleaner about life with these skills both personally and professionally.
For years I would have arguments about small things with my family and (hard to admit this) with my clients that were puzzling to me. I didn't understand why I was bouncing between shame for being overreactive and blame.
Now that I'm using the skills I can catch it when the past is intruding and we can talk about what's going on in the here and now, without it being so big or me stuffing it out of shame. I'm more upfront about getting hijacked without beating either one of us up.
It feels like a sacred privilege to be able to help clients to do the same."
therapist, USA
We'd love to have you join us.
Learn, grow, develop & flourish in the company of compassionate psycho-spiritual professionals committed to changing themselves - and through that, the people and world in which they live.
