This ratio, discovered by John Gottman in his couple’s lab research is important for all of us whether we’re in relationships or not. Gottman discovered that couples that stay together and thrive have a 5:1 ratio. For every negative thing that happens they have a buffer zone of 5 good things. Check out my video […]
All relationships involve skirmishes. It’s sort of a given. It’s also why some people avoid getting close to others because those skirmishes can be disruptive.
“I’ve NEVER experienced such a sense of safety in a similar training. Nor a felt sense of being seen, welcomed, belonging, support and encouragement to change and flourish.” “Deirdre’s moment-to-moment attunement to individuals, and modeling the work, are extraordinary in vivo. So many powerful and meaningful exercises. Such a gift.” Live workshops are a unique way […]
Never having led this Six Sides of the Spine variation I tried it out with my recent Living UnTriggered course participants. I’m calling it the Spinal Fog! Is it helpful to you? What do you notice in your body, mind and heart as you do it? Leave me a comment and let me know if […]
Over the past twenty plus years of teaching the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills I’ve seen these practical, concrete skills make enormous differences in healing people’s trauma histories. As Janina Fisher said when she sent her clients to the group, “they get better faster.” She saw such remarkable changes that she asked me to teach her […]
None of us like to be triggered. If, however, we learn how to slow it down and “unpack” the trigger we can use our triggers to release the trigger and find more freedom.
When we open up our longing for more, when the yearning comes up strongly we forget that the answers to the powerful questions we have arise when we listen to our heart’s longing. At the end of a recent coaching call I did with the Living UnTriggered course I could feel the power of the […]
I did a short video recently about how we can move away from the magnetic force of our triggered responses. It definitely is about practice — not about a quick fix! With practice, however, you can shift how your body, mind and heart responses when triggered.
I had a wide ranging conversation with Tanya Lacy about how trauma affects our body, mind, and heart – and our work life on her Positivity Show Podcast. What felt resonant to you as you listen?
Whenever I do something new, I get slightly sick to my stomach. It’s that stepping out of the comfort zone thing. Having heard from so many people over the past month (yes… 263 & counting) I responded to the push to create something to help. I both love being able to respond and support others […]