For many, though, the hard part is receiving kindness or compassion. How many times do you flinch or winch when someone says something good to you? Or maybe they offer to do a simple good thing. Do you receive gratefully or push it away? Years ago I was at a conference where Charles Raison, […]
The core elements of attachment theory set the foundation for healing the places we feel so stuck in. I put this video together, the first of a series, to answer the question so many people ask me, “How can I change?” Once we begin to make sense of how we are organized inside we […]
In this time of uncertainty and fear it’s easy to sink into worry or despair. That’s especially true for people with PTSD or anyone who has underlying developmental (attachment) trauma.
One of the foremost researchers in compassion is Tania Singer, researcher at the Max Plank Institute of Mind Studies in Leipzig. In this video Tania gives early results from her year long study at the World Economic Forum.
If we cannot treat ourselves with kindness then it can be difficult to relate to others. It becomes even more difficult to have compassion and empathy with strangers or those we do not like. Kristin Neff’s work on self compassion urges us to learn to treat ourselves with kindness especially in times of set backs […]
reblogged from Stanford Report, April 14, 2014 Stanford research explores the concept of maximizing happiness, and finds that pursuing concrete “giving” goals rather than abstract ones leads to greater satisfaction. By Clifton B. Parker Kolett/Shutterstock Givers are likely to experience greater happiness if they frame acts of benevolence in concrete rather than abstract terms, according […]
What Makes a Compassionate Man? By Kozo Hattori | April 1, 2014 | reblogged from Greater Good Science Center http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_makes_a_compassionate_man What does it take to foster compassion in men? To find out, Kozo Hattori interviewed scientific and spiritual experts. I remember being a very compassionate child. While watching The Little House on the Prairie, I […]
Sometimes we misunderstand compassion as being nothing more than a feeling of pity. Compassion is much, much more. It embraces not only a feeling of closeness, but also a sense of responsibility. When you develop compassion, it will help you enormously to generate inner strength and self-confidence, and to reduce your feelings of fear […]
Testimony (for my daughters) I want to tell you that the world is still beautiful. I tell you that despite children raped on city streets, shot down in school rooms, despite the slow poisons seeping from old and hidden sins into our air, soil, water, despite the thinning film that encloses our aching world. Despite […]
SCIENCE 12 JULY 12 by OLIVIA SOLON Training people to be compassionate rather than empathic might help to solve problems such as depression, burnout and narcissism, according to Tania Singer at the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences. Singer is an expert in social neuroscience and investigates the neuronal, hormonal and developmental […]