“Primed for Goodness” Are the words of attachment theorist Graham Music exploring infant research When we’re in the dumps it’s hard imagine things can ever be better. We feel trapped in the cycle of yucky, horrible, messy, never getting better. We are, however, as Graham Music tells us, “primed for goodness” in his book Nurturing Natures […]
Yes, It’s Your Parents’ Fault By KATE MURPHY JAN. 7, 2017 nytimes.com | Jan. 7, 2017 We live in a culture that celebrates individualism and self-reliance, and yet we humans are an exquisitely social species, thriving in good company and suffering in isolation. More than anything else, our intimate relationships, or lack thereof, shape and define […]
The core elements of attachment theory set the foundation for healing the places we feel so stuck in. I put this video together, the first of a series, to answer the question so many people ask me, “How can I change?” Once we begin to make sense of how we are organized inside we […]
In this time of uncertainty and fear it’s easy to sink into worry or despair. That’s especially true for people with PTSD or anyone who has underlying developmental (attachment) trauma.
Learning to ride a backwards bike takes time to unlearn the neurobiological biases already wired. Then shift and ride a normal bike there’s another learning undoing that has to happen. It’s also true with the healing process. Our perceptual lens has us experience the world from our Internal Working Model. We think we’re stuck, doomed […]
Complex as they may be, the gist of the findings is elegant and important: the more the woman was on her own while she was feeling threatened, the greater the number of brain areas showing elevated activity. The brain was least active when the woman was holding her husband’s hand and most active when she had no hand to hold. Moreover, even though all couples had a good relationship, the women who were in a less satisfying relationship showed more elevated brain activity when holding their husband’s hand than those who were in a more satisfying relationship.
In this video, Dan Hughes an attachment therapist that works with children and families
Virginia Nielsen MA LPC NCC, Ben Taussig MA LPC NCC, Vanessa Wray Williams MA LPC NCC made this video as part of a community education project on the family lifespan in the last course of their graduate degree programs. It deals with many of the things teens, parents, and families wish they could talk about with […]
It’s in attachment theory that I have found the psychological basis for what I’ve already known professionally. The last two years I have studied with Daniel Brown, PhD to understand the incredibly rich material of attachment that John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth developed. This week I’m at Sue Johnson’s Emotion Focused Therapy for couples, exploring […]