Jane’s comments reveal: Six factors that support transformation out of stuck places When we suffer we’re are prone to feeling stuck, lost, isolated, hopeless that anything can change. We want things to be different yet it’s such a heavy weight to push against the tide of life. It’s been this way for so long how can I […]
After a life of living with shame I know it’s possible to heal. For fun, I created a “calling card” with my current status! Find out more at the Brattleboro Retreat Workshop, September 23, 2016 Recently we had some beloved family over who have a 15 year old son. It was wonderful to see them. […]
You may have heard about the terrible storms that hit the United States this past week. Flooding, tornadoes, people died. Okay, nothing like that happened to me. But I got caught in the maelstrom flying back to Boston. The ripple effects of flights cancelled, rescheduled, cancelled again. It took me 40 hours to get home […]
The vibrant Internal Family Systems community organized a pre-screening of Pixar’s animated movie Inside Out which was great fun to see with colleagues. Set in the mind of an 11 year old girl Inside Out explores the voices in our heads. It’s based on part on the research of Paul Ekman on emotions. Delightful, touching — […]
David Whyte first taught me about belonging. In this video he brings forward the reality that as human beings we are the ones that know about being exiled. The call of belonging, the push of not belonging is what gives us the impetus to turn toward home. That push away from not belonging, the movement […]
Annie Ide is offering another *Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Group for Women *healing from trauma and attachment wounds. This *12-week psycho-educational/support group* offers the opportunity to learn skills using mindfulness & concentration practices Safely connect with others who are on a similar path towards healing and well-being; Cultivate awareness of thoughts/feelings/sensations/beliefs grounding and self-regulation, while safely […]
All relationships involve skirmishes. It’s sort of a given. It’s also why some people avoid getting close to others because those skirmishes can be disruptive. I’ve had my fair share over the years. Had one the other day with a colleague that I actually like really well. While some of these skirmishes are private, this […]
I thought long and hard about including the word spirituality in the Becoming Safely Embodied Manual. I use it when I speak with individual clients, and with groups of clients or therapists, yet I found myself pausing as I included it in the manual. I wanted to be respectful to those people who have been hurt by others using the terms, “spirituality” or “religion,” with ulterior motives. At the same time, I didn’t want to sacrifice my deepest intentions. Perhaps you might find it helpful if I clarify the way in which I use the word “spirituality,” so as to avoid confusion as you read further.
Spirituality, for the purposes of this manual, speaks to the underlying goodness, kindness, and compassion that we find in each other when our defenses soften. I personally have found the eastern traditions helpful in holding this non-religious frame, and I will sometimes speak directly from that experience. But I whole-heartedly acknowledge that others will have different references that work just as well (or better) for them.
A two day workshop on the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills will be held in Portland, Maine, March 1-2, 2013. The BSE mindfulness skill based approach is dedicated to helping clients with a traumatic or disorganized experience of life gain control over their internal world by giving structured practices they can use between therapy sessions.
When people have had a difficult life they get used to shortening and contracting their breath. The breath can get tangled up in the whole slew of thoughts and feelings and reactions to others that are going on almost constantly. It can be hard to turn the attention inside to notice the breath – right […]