My jaw dropped when I read this. I still need to practice!

Editor's comment

 

I finally turned in my manuscript to Norton Publishing.  Yes, a year late.  After I turned it in I was worried that the editor would tell me I needed to re-write it, I hadn’t done what they wanted.  You name it, I worried about it.

Well, above is an excerpt from the note he wrote me when he read the manuscript.

My jaw dropped.  I couldn’t believe it.  But there it was on paper. I double checked with him.  “Really?”  Yes, really he said.

Here’s the thing. Pretty quickly I realized I had more practice to do on myself. I had to navigate new turbulence — the turbulence that comes from taking in good things.  All turbulence comes when we step outside our comfort zone.  If you’re anything like me, you have a few (okay, many….) parts that are self-deprecating, insecure, scared, terrified of being exposed.  Those parts keep us in our comfort zone even when that comfort zone no longer nourishes us.

Usually we think about turbulence in regards to shifting gears and getting away from the painful, negative triggers. Well, with my editor’s praise I had a new level of turbulence to deal with — how to welcome in and befriend even more positive.  Those of you who are familiar with the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills may see the skills showing up here: dealing with turbulence, reaching for more nourishing ways of being, filling up the skin with positive experiences, carving out a new path, telling and re-telling a new, more satisfying story.

The new book Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery is a positive, compassionate approach to healing trauma. It’s built on the foundation of the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills, incorporating the profound teachings of yogic philosophy with the most important theoretical approaches to healing trauma and attachment.  At the core is a psychological understanding of yogic philosophy, offering a way to heal our deepest wounds. The models that provide positive, nourishing approaches, especially Mindful Self-Compassion, Compassion Focused Therapy, and Internal Family Systems, are integrated with yoga.

The practices in the book are ways to simply and gently help the body shift, the mind to calm, and the heart to open.  They’re the practices that helped me receive the amazing words my editor wrote.  I have had to build an internal secure base to be able to receive good things like this. Years ago, one of the first times I led a national workshop I cringed when I got positive feedback.  In fact, (it’s amazing to remember this) when I got the first flyer for the workshop I turned it upside down and put it under a lot of other papers. I never looked at it again.  That’s how hard it was to receive good things at that point.

I’ve had to do a lot of work since then.  It’s been a lot of practice learning to receive good things. It’s been a lot of practice learning to turn toward nourishment instead of living in a negative story.  It’s taken me a lot of practice to share this good news with you.

I do it because I want the same for you — which is the purpose of the book and all the courses I teach.  I want all of us to shed the distressing self-stories and live the lives we want to live, nourished and content.  And truly…. if I can do it, we can all do it.  I’m no different than anyone else. Hopefully we’ll do it together.  

Each time I lead a course I am inspired by the commitment each person shows to their own healing. I’m moved to tears by the courage that it takes to explore new paths to healing.  That’s part of the reason I teach what I do – to hear the stories of your lives as you become more of who you are. Knowing you’re out there, taking each step you do, shows me how the world is changing, one step at a time.

 

If it feels right to you, please consider pre-ordering a copy of the book through Norton Publishing’s website (25% off + free shipping) or through Amazon.com.  Either way, all the pre-orders help launch the book.  Help me share the healing that’s possible.  Thank you for that!

 

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57 Responses to “My jaw dropped when I read this. I still need to practice!”

  1. Bhavna July 23, 2016 at 1:41 am // Reply

    Congratulations!!!! You deserve it. Can’t wait to read it!

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:24 am // Reply

      Thank you Bhavna! So appreciating you.

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  2. RoseAnne Blum July 23, 2016 at 2:00 am // Reply

    Hi Deidre,
    Congratulations!!! 🙂 The editor’s words clearly illuminate your exemplary skills as writer as well as emphasizing your insightfulness in helping individuals who have been affected by trauma. I look forward to reading your book, which I will pre-order it tomorrow!

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:25 am // Reply

      Thank you, RoseAnne. I’m basking a little now, reading your words. Thanking you.

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  3. Debbie Musselman July 23, 2016 at 2:18 am // Reply

    Girl-I have chills up and down my spine. If anyone deserves these accolades; the exuberant praise; the validation of all your hard work on so many levels, it’s you! You have shared your knowledge wrapped up as a beautiful gifts. So humble that you probably don’t even know it. Congratulations Dierdre! Can’t wait to read it. xxoo

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:23 am // Reply

      Debbie! How great to hear from you. Thank you. What beautiful words and energy to receive from you. I had to take a moment to let them come in. Thank you so much……

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  4. Alex Balsdon July 23, 2016 at 4:34 am // Reply

    I can’t wait to receive my copy of your book, Deirdre! It’s great that you sound so excited by it too 🙂

    Alex Balsdon., Glasgow

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:22 am // Reply

      You’re a dear, Alex! And yes, I’m excited in part because it has consumed so many hours and hours over the last 3 or 4 years. The thought of having a moment free without it is wonderful 🙂

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  5. Laighne Fanney July 23, 2016 at 6:20 am // Reply

    Congratulations Deirdre! I never doubted you would inspire such praise. you have always been courageously moving ahead and inspiring people to come along with you. I know that your work will help many, many people to go deeper within their own issues and learn to move beyond the past and pain to self-knowledge and self-love.

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:21 am // Reply

      Laighne!!!! What a sweet surprise to read your words. You have known me for so long. You were my first teaching mentor so many long years ago when I was a stumbling fool! Your guidance, support, and encouragement paved the way for this. Thank you for all the heart you bring to all of us. love you.

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  6. Lauren July 23, 2016 at 7:07 am // Reply

    Congratulations, Deirdre! Quite an accomplishment for you and gift to us!

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  7. Karly July 23, 2016 at 7:08 am // Reply

    Congratulations Deirdre – I’m so happy for you! I can’t wait to read it!

    Warmly,
    Karly

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  8. Mike July 23, 2016 at 7:09 am // Reply

    Wow. Wow! What a glowing and wonderful description of a book that will be life-changing for so many.

    I tried to use the pre-order button and got nowhere. Am I doing something wrong? Please check it out! Very excited for you and sending lots of love, Mike

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:18 am // Reply

      You are the all time best, Mike. Not sure if this is what happened for you but the once on the Norton page you need to then put the code in ATTACHDFAY to get the promo? I’ll test it out. Otherwise, amazon might be the easier way to go, they just don’t have the discount listed yet. Thanks for trying though….

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  9. Matt July 23, 2016 at 7:09 am // Reply

    Hi Deirdre,
    Congratulations on the publication of your new book which I instantly tried to order via your site, only to discover it was not accessible to me as I live in the UK. Is there a route to getting it at the discounted rate outside of the USA?
    Blessings to you.

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:16 am // Reply

      Thank you for attempting! I will find out immediately what happen(ed). There’s got to be a way and I’ll make sure we find it:)

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  10. Ken July 23, 2016 at 7:09 am // Reply

    Congratulations Deidre! I’m happy and excited for you. You go girl! Ken

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:12 am // Reply

      Wonderful to have you stop by and leave a note, Ken! You’ve got some lines in the book 🙂

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  11. Lois July 23, 2016 at 7:10 am // Reply

    Looks great
    I will be sure to buy this..

    Looks excellent, practical and effective ..

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:15 am // Reply

      Thanks, Lois. I worked hard to make it as practical as possible, weaving in the theory which animates the practices. Glad I succeeded!

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  12. Michelle Salois July 23, 2016 at 7:24 am // Reply

    Way to go!!

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  13. Jane July 23, 2016 at 7:39 am // Reply

    AMAZING!!!! How incredibly well-deserved!! I am so thrilled and proud to know you. What an accomplishment. Now I order it—

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:49 am // Reply

      Truly amazing, Jane. You know how hard it has been. Thanks for contributing so much to the development of the book.

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  14. Suzanne July 23, 2016 at 7:46 am // Reply

    So happy for you Deirdre. Many congratulations – and wishes that you have more and more pleasure with this- and that the book is as successful as the energy you’ve put in.

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  15. Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 7:49 am // Reply

    So happy for you Deirdre. Many congratulations – and wishes that you have more and more pleasure with this- and that the book is as successful as the energy you’ve put in.

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  16. Brenda July 23, 2016 at 9:28 am // Reply

    Congratulations D!!!!
    You’re amazing:) It’s awesome and so deserved!!

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  17. Jennifer July 23, 2016 at 9:28 am // Reply

    I am thrilled to read this, Deirdre – both excited and touched by your sharing your journey.
    Thank you, and Congratulations!

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  18. Tom July 23, 2016 at 9:29 am // Reply

    Congratulations, Deirdre! Your book sounds wonderful, and I look forward to reading it.
    Much metta, Tom

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  19. Amy July 23, 2016 at 9:29 am // Reply

    The note from your editor is stupendous. Congratulations. I am so proud of you Love Amy

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  20. Malcolm July 23, 2016 at 9:30 am // Reply

    Hey Deirdre,

    congratulations, I had lots of mudita reading your words.

    I will look forward to getting the book.

    Wonderful

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 11:07 pm // Reply

      Hey Mal! I know you know what it’s like. Your words and kindness are much appreciated. Sending goodness to you

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  21. Kristy July 23, 2016 at 9:40 am // Reply

    Feeling mudita for you, dear Deirdre. Well done!

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 11:06 pm // Reply

      Thank you, thank you, thank you, Kristy 🙂

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  22. Meredeth Hartwell July 23, 2016 at 9:52 am // Reply

    Congratulations, Deirdre

    What a wonderful acheivement..both of the book’s completion but also of all the inner work that makes this possible and allows you to share it to the benefit of so man others!
    Can’t wait to get a copy!

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 11:06 pm // Reply

      You’re a gem, Meredeth. Thanks for being part of the journey and providing support a long the way.

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  23. Judy Langmuir July 23, 2016 at 12:53 pm // Reply

    Deirdre, I am so excited for you!!!!
    And I am delighted to purchase this book so that I can bring all of your knowledge into my head (and body!) and back out into my clients’ lives. Celebrate the positiveness that is you, dear Deirdre!!
    Warmly,
    Judy

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 11:05 pm // Reply

      Absolutely a delight to read your note, Judy. How sweet to have the connection after all the years. Thank you for taking the time to write.

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  24. Nyssa Matson-Keats, LICSW July 23, 2016 at 1:13 pm // Reply

    I look forward to reading it. Congratulations.
    Not surprised. 🙂
    Nyssa

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 11:05 pm // Reply

      Big hug, Nyssa. Thank you for your note.

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  25. Barney July 23, 2016 at 1:47 pm // Reply

    Wow, proud of you. Fabulous.

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 11:04 pm // Reply

      Thank you, Barney! So nice of you to let me know. Such a great feeling to almost be done with a multi-year project 🙂

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  26. Janice Stubblefield-Tave July 23, 2016 at 5:59 pm // Reply

    Well done, Deirdre. You are creating a path for so many. Congratulations.

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    • Deirdre Fay July 23, 2016 at 11:04 pm // Reply

      Janice! How nice to hear from you. Thank you for letting me know.

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  27. Cathy July 23, 2016 at 10:55 pm // Reply

    Congratulations Deirdre! I am so happy for you. I will definitely pre-order a copy. Thanks for sharing your joy and good news.

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  28. Rita July 23, 2016 at 11:10 pm // Reply

    I am so happy for you, and I can’t wait to read the book!!!

    Congratulations, Deirdre!! I don’t know you personally, but I do appreciate knowing you via these emails / and your website!!
    Blessings and Hugs and Love,
    Rita

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  29. Kandra Orr July 24, 2016 at 7:59 am // Reply

    I am so happy for you Deirdre. You have such a gift for expressing and putting into words abstract, hard to identify thoughts and feelings. I look forward to reading your new book!
    Blessings,
    Kandra

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  30. Margaret July 24, 2016 at 6:33 pm // Reply

    Congratulations Deirdre!
    I’m excited to hear you have a new book. What a wonderful note from your editor!
    I have participated in your online Becoming Safely Embodied workshops and found them to be so helpful! I look forward reading your new book.

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  31. Lynn July 25, 2016 at 6:51 am // Reply

    Deirdre, i know your book is a great accomplishment for you: i think i know your heart ( though, personally i do not know you, ) Look, just look at the all people its going to help heal and grow. Yes!!!!

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  32. Ron July 25, 2016 at 8:43 am // Reply

    Congratulations on your new book! Of course, I will have to have my own copy! I so value what you share, and the way you share it. Your openness and willingness to share your own process deepens the benefit of the excellent content that you offer in your writing.

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  33. Robin July 25, 2016 at 8:45 am // Reply

    Wonderful and well-deserved praise. I look forward to reading the book (studying the book) the moment it is out.

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  34. Ruth July 25, 2016 at 8:47 am // Reply

    Woo Hoo! You rock, Deirdre. I ordered my immediately

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  35. Adelaide July 25, 2016 at 10:42 am // Reply

    Big Congratulations to you, Deirdre! All the best

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  36. Harris July 25, 2016 at 10:49 am // Reply

    Wow! This is fantastic. I’m ordering my copy now.

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  37. Natalie July 25, 2016 at 10:53 am // Reply

    YAY !!! This is fantastic !!! Kudos to you. I can’t wait to read it. More importantly, I can’t wait to see you in person sometime soon, now that I’m back on the east coast. I’ll take a look at what workshops you’re doing that I can attend.

    Bask in the glory of this exceptional review ! You deserve it, and all of the amazing things that will follow the publication of this book.

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  38. Paul July 25, 2016 at 11:23 am // Reply

    Congratulations!
    That’s such a wonderful tribute to you!
    Well done!

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  39. Robin Athey September 13, 2016 at 10:33 am // Reply

    Dear Deirdre, Wow — my heart warms reading your editor’s note … and your response … which seems so thoughtful, accepting, celebrating!, and humble to me.
    I’m grateful for your response, which in itself seems “erudite and accessible” … a compassionate wisdom born out of years of dedication.
    I’m particularly touched by the turbulence you describe … that comes from stepping outside a comfort zone that no longer nourishes us … that we may turn toward nourishment instead of living in a negative story.
    That’s great ‘medicine’ right now, so timely and synchronistic. Thank you.
    And zestful congratulations! I’m excited to read your ‘baby’ (pre-ordering now).
    Warmly,
    Robin

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    • Deirdre Fay October 2, 2016 at 7:46 pm // Reply

      Just seeing your note, Robin. Thanks for very kind words. Means a lot coming from you. Sending goodness, Deirdre

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