Lessons learned from being reactive…. [my own]

Yup…. moments (which last for a loooonnnnnngggg time) can be humbling. But they can also be where we learn the most.

That was certainly true for me. The 8 minute video tells the truth.

My darn pain filter. Three months of cowering under it’s influence and the spell got broken with a laugh — and with reality!

Yup. That’s how it went down. I was talking with a long time friend, Anna about the situation I was grappling with. I know, and I still forget, that talking with someone who understands can shift the “spell.”

And it did. We both laughed. We both know how it is.

Well, actually, Anna said to me, “Don’t blame yourself honey! This is how transformation happens for all of us.” Anna, like most good friends tend to be more gentle in their responses than we are with ourselves.

I’m grateful Anna understands the process of transformation. It helped me turn embarrassment into ruefulness.

I wish these things never happened to me. And yet, they do. They do because I’m human. They happen to you for the very same reason.

What helps make a difference is what one of my teachers, Dinabandhu recently said to me: the benefit of practice is it keeps us from going too far into the ditch. We still go into the ditch, just not as far, or as often.

I tell the truth about what happened in this short video. In it I talk about the intersection of attachment theory and the transformation of yogic psychology.

Does it help you sort out, or make sense of your reactive moments? Comment below and let me know!

Sending goodness, always,

Deirdre