Jane’s comments reveal: Six factors that support transformation out of stuck places When we suffer we’re are prone to feeling stuck, lost, isolated, hopeless that anything can change. We want things to be different yet it’s such a heavy weight to push against the tide of life. It’s been this way for so long how can I […]
You may have heard about the terrible storms that hit the United States this past week. Flooding, tornadoes, people died. Okay, nothing like that happened to me. But I got caught in the maelstrom flying back to Boston. The ripple effects of flights cancelled, rescheduled, cancelled again. It took me 40 hours to get home […]
Illustration by T. who wrote one of the emails below describing what’s in the image. Can you find the Hedgehog? Where’s the hedgehog!!!! With gratitude I acknowledge all the people in the Becoming Safely Embodied™ course. Everyone’s questions and comments helped me to think more deeply about the material. I continue to be awed at […]
I thought long and hard about including the word spirituality in the Becoming Safely Embodied Manual. I use it when I speak with individual clients, and with groups of clients or therapists, yet I found myself pausing as I included it in the manual. I wanted to be respectful to those people who have been hurt by others using the terms, “spirituality” or “religion,” with ulterior motives. At the same time, I didn’t want to sacrifice my deepest intentions. Perhaps you might find it helpful if I clarify the way in which I use the word “spirituality,” so as to avoid confusion as you read further.
Spirituality, for the purposes of this manual, speaks to the underlying goodness, kindness, and compassion that we find in each other when our defenses soften. I personally have found the eastern traditions helpful in holding this non-religious frame, and I will sometimes speak directly from that experience. But I whole-heartedly acknowledge that others will have different references that work just as well (or better) for them.
A two day workshop on the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills will be held in Portland, Maine, March 1-2, 2013. The BSE mindfulness skill based approach is dedicated to helping clients with a traumatic or disorganized experience of life gain control over their internal world by giving structured practices they can use between therapy sessions.
A couple months ago Michelle R wrote me about some poetry she’d been writing in the midst of a transformational cauldron in her life. She wanted to send it on to me. Of course I wanted to read it! I loved it and asked her permission to share it with you. With her permission here’s […]
At a conference recently a box of 50 Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Manual was left under the table while the copies on the table went like hotcakes. The bookseller forgot that the extra box was underneath. I knew nothing of this until the box arrived at my doorstep with a big apology note. Well, the […]
Some things are easy to figure out. We know when we get a new gadget how to put the batteries in. We have the basics on how to do a lot of things on the computer. We no longer need instructions on how to get out of the chair and walk around.
But when it comes to our lives it doesn’t always feel that easy. Certainly isn’t that simple. Things don’t always make sense. We’re confused by how people respond to us.
The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills are one way to have an instruction manual.
“Deirdre, this note is long overdue… Every month I wait for your email feeling reassured by your words and supported by the practices you provide. I learn and practice something every month that makes a difference as I live each and every day. It’s an incredible guide.” ~ K.( Australia) It’s those kinds of […]