Becoming Safely Embodied Online Skills Course Registration ends soon! Click here to find out more information and to register The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills are designed to help you organize what’s confusing and disorienting so you can live a more satisfying and fulfilling life. Each one of the BSE Skills were created to help calm […]
None of us are alone in our proneness to be negative. That’s certainly clear when we feel vulnerable or threatened. There are so many areas of our life this can happen in. We’re afraid of loss, of bad things happening to us, to others we love, of natural disasters, of our bodies breaking down, that […]
Jane’s comments reveal: Six factors that support transformation out of stuck places When we suffer we’re are prone to feeling stuck, lost, isolated, hopeless that anything can change. We want things to be different yet it’s such a heavy weight to push against the tide of life. It’s been this way for so long how can I […]
You may have heard about the terrible storms that hit the United States this past week. Flooding, tornadoes, people died. Okay, nothing like that happened to me. But I got caught in the maelstrom flying back to Boston. The ripple effects of flights cancelled, rescheduled, cancelled again. It took me 40 hours to get home […]
Illustration by T. who wrote one of the emails below describing what’s in the image. Can you find the Hedgehog? Where’s the hedgehog!!!! With gratitude I acknowledge all the people in the Becoming Safely Embodied™ course. Everyone’s questions and comments helped me to think more deeply about the material. I continue to be awed at […]
I thought long and hard about including the word spirituality in the Becoming Safely Embodied Manual. I use it when I speak with individual clients, and with groups of clients or therapists, yet I found myself pausing as I included it in the manual. I wanted to be respectful to those people who have been hurt by others using the terms, “spirituality” or “religion,” with ulterior motives. At the same time, I didn’t want to sacrifice my deepest intentions. Perhaps you might find it helpful if I clarify the way in which I use the word “spirituality,” so as to avoid confusion as you read further.
Spirituality, for the purposes of this manual, speaks to the underlying goodness, kindness, and compassion that we find in each other when our defenses soften. I personally have found the eastern traditions helpful in holding this non-religious frame, and I will sometimes speak directly from that experience. But I whole-heartedly acknowledge that others will have different references that work just as well (or better) for them.
A two day workshop on the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills will be held in Portland, Maine, March 1-2, 2013. The BSE mindfulness skill based approach is dedicated to helping clients with a traumatic or disorganized experience of life gain control over their internal world by giving structured practices they can use between therapy sessions.
A couple months ago Michelle R wrote me about some poetry she’d been writing in the midst of a transformational cauldron in her life. She wanted to send it on to me. Of course I wanted to read it! I loved it and asked her permission to share it with you. With her permission here’s […]
At a conference recently a box of 50 Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Manual was left under the table while the copies on the table went like hotcakes. The bookseller forgot that the extra box was underneath. I knew nothing of this until the box arrived at my doorstep with a big apology note. Well, the […]
Some things are easy to figure out. We know when we get a new gadget how to put the batteries in. We have the basics on how to do a lot of things on the computer. We no longer need instructions on how to get out of the chair and walk around.
But when it comes to our lives it doesn’t always feel that easy. Certainly isn’t that simple. Things don’t always make sense. We’re confused by how people respond to us.
The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills are one way to have an instruction manual.