Having spent a beautiful day in retreat sharing the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills with Amy Joseph and her colleagues my heart is brimming full of gratitude. I’m sending on a lovely video of blessings with thanks to Amy Joseph from the Swansea Center for Psychotherapy for sending on this beautiful blessing for all of us. [...]
I thought long and hard about including the word spirituality in the Becoming Safely Embodied Manual. I use it when I speak with individual clients, and with groups of clients or therapists, yet I found myself pausing as I included it in the manual. I wanted to be respectful to those people who have been hurt by others using the terms, “spirituality” or “religion,” with ulterior motives. At the same time, I didn’t want to sacrifice my deepest intentions. Perhaps you might find it helpful if I clarify the way in which I use the word “spirituality,” so as to avoid confusion as you read further.
Spirituality, for the purposes of this manual, speaks to the underlying goodness, kindness, and compassion that we find in each other when our defenses soften. I personally have found the eastern traditions helpful in holding this non-religious frame, and I will sometimes speak directly from that experience. But I whole-heartedly acknowledge that others will have different references that work just as well (or better) for them.
A couple months ago Michelle R wrote me about some poetry she’d been writing in the midst of a transformational cauldron in her life. She wanted to send it on to me. Of course I wanted to read it! I loved it and asked her permission to share it with you. With her permission here’s [...]
Over the weekend I was attending a workshop given by Allan Schore in Portland, Maine. Deb Dana was the person who has organized Allan’s workshop and had it in this beautiful location. I loved the bathrooms that had wall-to-wall blackboards, although it was a bit unsettling to find one cabana (aka “stall”) with the [...]
In September, 2012 I’m off to lead a workshop with therapists in Scotland. Preparing for that visit I asked the publisher to send me manuals. They ordered me a substantial price reduction if I ordered more — so I did! Since I won’t need the whole amount for Scotland I wanted to pass the [...]
At a conference recently a box of 50 Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Manual was left under the table while the copies on the table went like hotcakes. The bookseller forgot that the extra box was underneath. I knew nothing of this until the box arrived at my doorstep with a big apology note. Well, the [...]
Mingyur Rinpoche inspires us to become aware of suffering instead of falling into the river of suffering. Internal Family Systems offers a way to do that with our psychological parts. The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills give practical ways to do that.
The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Course has step by step tools to untangle the distress of life to begin freeing up the distortions and turmoil that are the result of a complicated life history. These skills have been honed over many years and are now used by people throughout the world.
“Deirdre, this note is long overdue… Every month I wait for your email feeling reassured by your words and supported by the practices you provide. I learn and practice something every month that makes a difference as I live each and every day. It’s an incredible guide.” ~ K.( Australia) It’s those kinds of [...]
Every courageous gesture we make, whether or not we think it’s successful, definitely imprints our mind in a positive way. The slightest willingness to interrupt our old habits predisposes us to greater bravery, greater strength, and greater empathy for others. No matter how trapped we feel, we can always be of benefit. How? By interrupting [...]